Find your “WITH”
Some of you may have seen my comments on LinkedIn this week. A gentleman was struggling to cope with the pressures of work, the expectation of family and time for himself.
Everything was just merging into one, and he didn’t feel he was getting anything right, and everything seemed completely overwhelming and seemingly without any other way to go about it.
This is a situation all of us have been in, and for some of us, we are still in it. The frustration of having so much to do and there appears to be no one else to do it. It all comes back to you, jobs are piling up one after the other and the faster you do them, the more that pile up
This gentleman knew he had to let go, but if he did, then he was afraid that things wouldn’t get done correctly. Who would know how to do it as well as he did. And so the cycle continues, and there is no escape.
Now it is all well and good for us to stand outside and look into someone’s else’s life and look at the problem and see that the answer is so obvious. But when you are in the trenches fighting, and there are fires all around you, the answer doesn’t seem that clear and obvious. In fact, it looks more like a disaster than an answer.
If things were obvious to us all we would never get into trouble, would we?
The suggestion I provided to this gentleman is one that I provide to you now.
Find your WITH
No that is not a spelling mistake. You need to find your WITH in your business.
We all know very well how to work IN our business. Most of us have PhDs in that. The almost impossible dream is to work ON your business, but I believe the real answer lies in us finding our WITH in the business.
We need to understand how we work WITH our business. If we can understand how we work WITH our business, how we contribute, the difference that we make then there is no need for IN or ON. We are in the business doing what we need to do ON the business; we are WITH our business.
Confusing, probably. But if we can find our purpose, the reason why the business needs us and how we are going to work WITH the business then we can offload all of the burdens that aren’t aligned with this and allow others who have that purpose to handle these tasks and responsibilities and if we don’t have anyone in the business then we need to get someone or outsource it.
Because our purpose how we work WITH the business is too important for us to ignore and leave it to someone else. All those other tasks and responsibilities would be better served by someone else.
It isn’t an easy thing understanding our purpose in our business but it is necessary, because if you are going to work hard IN your Business,
you may need to work really hard WITH your business on the things that matter.